May 222016


But I probably will.

If you’ve known me for any length of time, you probably know I’m a big Aisha Tyler fan.  Not literally big; despite what the picture here portrays she’s VERY much taller than me.  Very much.  She crouched down to make me feel better.  The title of my post is a quote from her in fact.

I respect her for a lot of reasons. She’s smart, opinionated, has an impressive vocabulary, and has hustle. Lots and lots of hustle.  On top of that she’s probably one of my favorite comedians which is how I was introduced to her in the first place. I’ve seen her live show twice (she really needs to be touring again), got her dvd, read her book, and of course watch Archer religiously.

But the hustle is what I respected the most.  Ironically one of her jokes in her stand up dvd talks about how she feels like she gets less effective as she gets older.  I can relate to that sensation.. I feel it almost daily.   When you’re a chronic multi-tasker you almost can’t stop doing it, and always feel like you can’t stop “doing” things and relax until your mental list is done.  Lately I always feel behind or that there’s just something else I want to do and if I just had an extra hour…   but I (nor does anyone else) ever have that extra magic hour.

I’ll be turning 38 this year which I’m not overly sad about.  To  25 year old Mike- who frequently gets a front row seat to my mental voice- says holy crap that’s old. I don’t feel any older for sure but I do, as Aisha Tyler once said, feel like I’m getting less effective.  I can’t get everything done that I could when I was 25, or 30, or even 33. I can’t spend an hour and a half at the gym. I can’t go out binge drinking (really ok with that).  I can’t drop everything and travel on a whim.  It’s hard to get laundry done or even go grocery shopping!  Multi-tasking? HA.  Barely.  But I think over the years I’ve become a better person and it definitely wasn’t through multitasking.

So what if I’m slower? I think that while maybe I’m not moving as fast, I can devote more time and energy to a Thing.  Maybe we/I shouldn’t judge our effectiveness by how many simultaneous things we can do?  If I look at my life now, what I have is worth so much more to me than what 25 or 30 year old Mike had. I have a family who’s with me to support me. I got married, got a few dogs, started gardening, and got a job I love.  I’m not living in a nearly empty bachelor pad, spending weekends at the beach, or worrying about what I have to do.    I might miss having abs but the reality is they only do so much for you and only at the beach, otherwise you’re That Guy (TM) in the bar with his shirt off.

Maybe I’m not as effective at multi-tasking but I think I’m ok with being a better husband and person.   I have my hobbies, my job, my little family and our cozy little life. I think overall it’s a much richer experience.   I have gardening, some computering projects, our dogs, my husband, photography…. heck that doesn’t even touch things like reading, comic books, movies, etc.  My life is rich, my life is effective, and we shouldn’t be judging people by how many things they can half ass at once.

Doesn’t mean I’m going to stop going to the gym though.

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May 172016
Why do I take so many damn pictures?

Good question! Glad no one asked. It’s definitely not to make money. It’s easy to assume that no one can make money as a photographer anymore with the proliferation of tools that lower the bar of entry, but photography has almost never been about the technical prowess of the photographer.  Instead it’s about telling a story and evoking feelings and that is VERY hard to do well.  Tools like Instagram or Facebook and services like Blurb can go a long way from making a mediocre storyteller into a decent one, but there’s really no substitute for someone with vision.    For […]

May 162016

After a 3 day weekend camping it’s looking like a quiet week this week. I’m looking forward to having tons of time to work on my backlog of photos to process and develop as I’m already 2 trips behind and if I’m not careful it’s going to get even more out of hand at the rate we’re going.

May 022016

Since I’ve posted anything here. I could have held off another 12 days and made it exact but that seems overly arbitrary and a bit OCD.    I’ve fallen into the easy trap of using FB to power my little life stream, but the format there for deep thoughts just isn’t there.  Plus old content is very hard to find. I think I owe myself several posts, and I have ideas for new ones, and I’m going to talk about my hobbies and passions more than work from now on. I think that’ll make it easier to stay engaged 🙂 […]

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May 172014

Part 1 is here if you missed it. First off let’s agree on this: there is no such thing. The rockstar / high performer will have zero social or soft skills. The rock steady consistent performer probably won’t wow you with their ingenuity. The friendliest most agreeable most likeable person will probably be useless. This isn’t news to anyone; there’s tons of strategies out there where people tell you what characteristics or traits to look for, or guidelines to judge how much a fit is acceptable and still keep the team moving.  I personally don’t believe in either of those […]

Apr 092014

I managed to re-sprain my ankle to some degree this weekend during the Spartan run so I’m less than happy. The trip wasn’t a total wash; I got to play with some alpha tech from work and broadcast a buncha podcasts from everywhere along the way.   If you’re bored give it a listen!

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Apr 022014

But who has time for that crap? Not me, that’s who.  Going to be traveling to Vegas this weekend for a race and hope to use the airplane time to polish on the 2nd post in my series on hiring. Until then, toodles.

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Mar 112014

It’s like The Hunger Games but less fun.